Why being a Mum is the most important role you'll ever have
“Having kids - the responsibility of rearing good, kind, ethical, responsible human beings - is the biggest job anyone can embark on" ~ Maria Shriver
It’s half term, and I’ve had an amazing week so far with my 3 little boys. I’m feeling immensely blessed that I’m able to share this time with them, and to watch them grow and change, day in day out.
I was once defined by my career, my job title, my salary, my ‘business owner’ status (those things are long gone now), but spending such quality time with my boys has reminded me how beautiful these years are, and how bringing up my children is the most significant role I’ll ever take on. I’ve always known it of course, it’s just sometimes I forget, and I slip back into feeling like I’m ‘just a mum’.
Being a mum is one of the biggest responsibilities in the world! You are not ‘just a mum’ you are everything - EVERYTHING!
The next generation (and ultimately the world) relies on us (ok I know, that’s heavy, but they are the future!) We give them life and we nurture them when they’re teeny - they literally rely on us for survival! We teach them how to sit up, crawl, stand and walk. We show them how to clap their hands and sing, how to feed themselves and blow raspberries, and how to give the best cuddles in the world.
As the months and years pass, we’re here to help them grow further. We teach them manners, how to say please and thank you. We shower them with love, we praise them, we let them know when they’re doing something wrong (like pulling the cat’s tail) and we catch them when they fall. We wipe away their tears, we bath them, we soothe them to sleep, and we nurse them round the clock when they’re ill.
They trust us 100%
As their little worlds expand we help them to socialise. We encourage them to share, we explain right from wrong, and we talk to them about forgiveness. We hope we’re doing it right!
They grow a little older. We show them how to live, how to love, how to let go. We see their disappointments and we’re there for them. We try to strike a balance between mollycoddling them and giving them room to learn to deal with their emotions, to deal with things themselves. We support them every step of the way, ultimately in preparation for the end goal - total independence.
“It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless” ~ L.R. Knost
We encourage them to have compassion, to help others, to think of people less fortunate. We pray that they follow their dreams - after all they can climb mountains, heal the sick, travel the world, fly a plane, write a book, learn ten languages…
They can do ANYTHING in the world, and it all starts with us!
As they grow into young men and young women (I’m not speaking from experience as that’s a long way off for my three), I’m pretty sure we’ll have to steer them away from trouble at some point. We’ll give them responsibilities of their own to prepare them for adult life, and as hard as it may be, we’ll have to learn to loosen the reins and let them make their own mistakes. We’ll empathise with them when they squabble and fight with friends, and we’ll see them through the inevitable teenage heart-breaks.
And then the day will come when we wave goodbye as they leave the nest. But our role as mum won’t end there.
We’ll keep cheering them on, and we’ll celebrate the good times with them. We’ll be there for the hard times, as much as they’ll let us - disappointments, divorce, loss, heartbreak, illness - and while they may no longer need us to physically wipe away their tears, our hearts will break all the same.
When they are young, we are the centre of their worlds, but that will change as they grow and have families of their own. But what we do now, it shapes everything. The memories we make, the values we instill, the love we share. It’s priceless, and it will feed into future generations.
So to all the Mums* out there (whatever your situation - whether you work, stay at home full time, live in a caravan or a 10 bed mansion) you have THE most valuable and important job in the world, and no matter how tough it gets, no matter how much you’re winging it, no matter how much you think you’re fluffing it up - you are doing the most amazing thing in the world, and if that isn’t something to be proud of then I don’t know what is.
Much love, Fran xxx
*I guess this isn't just for Mum's, it goes out to all of the amazing Dad's and other caregivers/guardians too. We're all shaping the future generation!
ABOUT FRAN GRANT
Wife to a very lucky husband. Mum to 3 beautiful little boys. Gym, yoga and self care enthusiast. Lover of food, coffee, wine and gin. Self confessed bookworm and book hoarder. Advocate for keeping the magic of reading alive for today’s children. And last but not least - Writer (currently trying my hand at kids fiction and rhyming stories). Thanks for visiting my site - expect to see posts mainly related to reading and writing, with occasional musings about family, parenting and life in general. Oh, and plenty of book reviews! Hope you enjoy! Much love, Fran x